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Catherine Quiring's avatar

Thank you, Jenny. I think a lot about how helpful it would be to have a Truth and Reconciliation process in our country and I appreciate the insight into Desmond Tutu's path for that. I just finished listening to a great podcast episodes about understanding and repairing harm too that I'll add to the conversation. It's Miriame Kaba on Prentiss Hemphill's podcast: Harm, Punishment, and Abolition. https://www.findingourwaypodcast.com/individual-episodes/s2e12

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Jenny Smith's avatar

Yes. Yes. Thank you for sharing!

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Rebecca D. Martin's avatar

I've really struggled with forgiveness in recent years. This post was incredibly helpful to me, incredibly encouraging. Just what I've needed.

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Jenny Smith's avatar

Glad to hear! Ongoing forever kind of work.

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Amber Saldivar's avatar

I’m so grateful to read your writing Jenny. I especially liked the ending of this article. That book by Desmond Tutu sounds powerful. On the journey with you! ❤️

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Jenny Smith's avatar

You’re so very welcome! Glad we’re on it together.

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Heather Clark's avatar

So good. Lysa Terkheurst wrote an amazing book called Forgiving What You Can't Forget. In it, she talks about forgiving the ACT that offended/hurt us, and then every time the hurt shows up in a new way, we forgive the IMPACT of that offense and hurt.

She also has a very practical exercise where you write out on 3x5 cards "I forgive ___ (person) for ___ (act or impact). Then you cover it with a red card that says "And whatever my feelings will not yet allow for, the blood of Jesus will surely cover." Powerful.

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